How to Create a Relaxing Evening Routine After the Kids Are in Bed

1. Why Evening Routines Matter for Moms

Let’s be real: mom life is beautiful but also non-stop. Between meals, tantrums, school runs, and endless questions (why do they always have so many questions?!), your day is packed from morning until night. By the time bedtime rolls around, you’re physically and emotionally drained. And I know—it’s tempting to either dive into chores or plop on the couch scrolling through your phone.

But trust me when I say that making time to care for yourself is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself and your family. A peaceful evening routine isn’t just about relaxation; it’s about resetting your mind and spirit so you wake up refreshed and ready for another day.

This doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. Even 20-30 minutes of intentional “me time” can make a world of difference. So, let’s explore how you can create a simple, soothing evening routine tailored to your busy life.

This evening routine isn’t about adding another task to your list—it’s about nurturing your mind, body, and soul so you can recharge and show up as your best self.

For those of us moms who enjoy reflection and mindfulness, adding positive affirmations can be a great way to start or end your routine. If you need inspiration, check out these 31 Printable Affirmation Cards for Moms.

(P.S. If reflection helps you unwind, consider using one of my Gratitude Journals or Manifestation Journals to capture your thoughts and set positive intentions before bed.)

2. Set the Stage for Relaxation

One of the most important steps to creating a calming evening routine is setting the mood. When your space feels peaceful, it becomes easier to let go of the day’s stress and unwind.

Here are a few simple steps to transform your space:

Tidy Up Quickly (Without Stress)
No one expects a spotless house, especially after a long day of parenting. But taking 5-10 minutes to clear away toys, load the dishwasher, or fluff up the pillows can create a sense of calm. This isn’t about perfection—just creating a more peaceful environment to relax in.

Pro tip: Involve the kids in a quick “clean-up sprint” before bed to make this easier for you.

Dim the Lights and Create a Cozy Atmosphere
Harsh lighting keeps your brain on high alert. Switch off the overhead lights and opt for lamps, fairy lights, or even candles. The soft glow signals to your body that it’s time to relax.

Consider Soothing Music or White Noise
Music has a magical way of calming the mind. Whether it’s gentle piano tunes, nature sounds, or a calming playlist you love, background noise can help create a sanctuary vibe.

(Pro tip: Set up a cozy spot for your gratitude practice with one of these Manifestation Journal Prompts to focus your thoughts and intentions.)

3. Unwind Your Mind and Body

After spending your day focused on everyone else’s needs, it’s time to shift the attention back to yourself. Taking a few moments to release tension from your body and quiet your mind can help you truly relax before bedtime.

Gentle Stretching or Light Yoga
You don’t need a full workout—just a few simple stretches can release the tension built up in your shoulders, neck, and back throughout the day. Try gentle movements like neck rolls, forward bends, or cat-cow stretches. If yoga’s your thing, a few minutes of child’s pose or seated stretches can work wonders.

Even if you only have five minutes, these simple stretches can help you breathe deeper and feel lighter.

Deep Breathing or Mindfulness Exercises
I know meditation can sound intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Close your eyes, place your hand on your chest, and take slow, deep breaths. Focus on how your breath feels as it moves in and out.

If your mind wanders (and it probably will), that’s okay. Just gently bring your focus back to your breathing. Even a few minutes of mindfulness can help quiet the mental chatter and create a sense of calm.

(Need help getting centered? This Busy Mom’s Guide to Self-Love is filled with ideas to nourish your mind and soul.)

4. Enjoy a Simple Self-Care Ritual

Taking care of yourself doesn’t have to mean a full-blown spa night—unless you want it to! A simple self-care ritual can signal to your mind and body that the day is done and it’s time to relax.

Skincare or a Relaxing Bath
A few minutes spent pampering your skin can be surprisingly calming. Wash off the day with a gentle cleanser, apply your favorite moisturizer, and maybe add a little facial massage for good measure.

If you have the time, a warm bath with Epsom salts or essential oils can feel like a mini getaway. Light a candle, close your eyes, and just soak.

Comfortable Loungewear for Ultimate Relaxation
There’s something magical about changing into cozy clothes after a long day. Soft fabrics and comfy fits can make all the difference in helping your body relax and signal bedtime.

For a creative touch, consider planning seasonal activities for yourself or the family. Need ideas? Check out these 350 Spring Bucket List Ideas for Moms to spark some inspiration.

5. Find Joy in a Quiet Activity

Sometimes the best way to unwind is by doing something that brings you joy—but doesn’t require too much energy.

Reading or Journaling
Curl up with a book you’ve been meaning to read, or grab your favorite journal. Writing down your thoughts can help clear your mind and process the events of the day.

I personally love ending my day with a gratitude practice. Writing down just a few things I’m thankful for has shifted my mindset and helped me focus on the positives. If you’d like to give it a try, grab one of my Gratitude Journals to start your own practice.

Watching a Favorite Show or Listening to a Podcast
Sometimes zoning out with a lighthearted show or inspiring podcast is exactly what you need. Choose something uplifting or calming to maintain that peaceful evening vibe.

Creative Outlets: Crafting or Doodling
If you enjoy being creative, this can be the perfect time to do something just for fun. Whether it’s doodling, knitting, or even coloring in an adult coloring book, creative activities can help melt away stress.

6. Disconnect from Screens

I get it—when the kids are finally in bed, your phone or tablet can feel like your best friend. Scrolling through social media or catching up on emails might seem like the easiest way to wind down, but it can actually keep your brain buzzing long after you’re ready to sleep.

Set a “Screen-Free” Time Before Bed
Try giving yourself at least 30 minutes of screen-free time before bed. This might feel impossible at first, but trust me—it’s a game-changer for helping your mind truly relax. Use this time to reconnect with yourself or your partner, read a book, or practice some quiet reflection.

Use This Time for Reflection or Gratitude Practices
Spend a few moments thinking about what went well today. Even on the hardest days, there’s always something to be grateful for. Write those thoughts down in a journal, or simply hold them in your heart. This small habit can help shift your mindset from stressed to peaceful.

(Looking for a tool to guide your reflection? My Gratitude Journals and Prayer Journals can be a wonderful way to capture these moments.)

7. Prepare for a Restful Night

Winding down your evening routine with a few small habits can help set you up for better sleep and a smoother morning.

Set Out Tomorrow’s Essentials (Optional for Peace of Mind)
If knowing you’re prepared helps ease your mind, take a few minutes to lay out clothes for tomorrow, pack lunches, or review your schedule. This isn’t about over-planning—just removing a little bit of morning stress so you can rest easy tonight.

Maintain a Consistent Sleep Schedule
Going to bed and waking up at roughly the same time each day can work wonders for your energy levels. I know it’s not always possible (especially when you’ve got little ones!), but aiming for a consistent routine as often as you can will help signal to your body when it’s time to rest.

8. Remember: It’s About Progress, Not Perfection

Let’s be honest—no evening routine is going to go perfectly every single night. And that’s okay. Some nights you’ll fall asleep on the couch, and others you’ll get pulled back into mom mode for a midnight potty trip or an extra hug.

The point isn’t perfection; it’s progress. Even small moments of calm and care can make a difference. Be gentle with yourself and remember that you’re doing your best.

9. Final Thoughts

Remember, mama—this time is for you. Even if your evening routine looks different each night, it’s about creating small moments of peace amidst the chaos.

Which part of your evening routine brings you the most joy? I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if you’re ready to explore mindfulness and manifestation, grab one of my Gratitude Journals or Prayer Journals for a guided way to reflect on your day.

Wishing you peaceful evenings and restful nights!